Experts explain how many friends we really need: The changing trends in the number of close friendships
Changing work routines and a shift in the structures of society has changed how people interact and some are feeling increasingly isolated.
In an age dominated by digital connections and fast-paced lifestyles, the nature of friendship is evolving. Some evidence suggests that people are finding it harder to make lasting connections but experts say the number of close friends we actually need may be fewer than you think.
According to psychologists and social researchers, quality matters far more than quantity when it comes to meaningful relationships. So how many is the right amount?
A 2020 study published in Adultspan Journal sought to better understand that question, and lead author Suzanne Degges-White had some interesting findings.
“Having three to six close friends is really the ‘sweet spot’ for reaping the happiness benefits of friendship,” she told Everyday Health. “Not only is this a manageable number of relationships to maintain for most people, but it also reflects a steady level of social engagement in the world, and this also contributes to life satisfaction.”
Yes, it’s not just about how many friends you have, but whether those relationships feel emotionally fulfilling. In fact, investing time in a few close bonds may offer greater mental health benefits than spreading yourself thin across a large social circle.
However there is certainly a place for those more casual contacts, too. That ‘second circle’ of friends can help to ensure a diversity of voices, interests and experiences in your life, supplementary your core group.
“No one person can address all of an individual’s friendship needs,” said Irene S. Levine, a psychologist and co-producer of the Friendship Rules newsletter. “Having a circle of friends helps satisfy multiple needs, reduces the burden on any one individual, and provides a safety net when we lose meaningful friendships.”
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