Valle Rubio, psychologist: “Don’t be afraid to say if something bothers you or hurts you; staying silent will only distance you”
The psychology expert shared a short video on TikTok highlighting the importance of not taking certain messages personally.
Navigating personal relationships is rarely simple. Every interaction carries a bit of uncertainty—especially when someone shares something that initially sounds negative but, when you look closer, is actually a genuine expression of care.
That’s the idea behind a recent TikTok video from psychologist and content creator Valle Rubio, who breaks down a type of affection many people overlook. “Do you know what kind of loving gesture we often fail to recognize?” she asks at the start of her clip.
Rubio explains that when someone tells us that something we do bothers them or hurts them, it’s not an attack or a rejection. Instead, it’s their way of saying, “I want to stay connected to you, but I need this to change.” She emphasizes the importance of not taking these moments personally.
“When it happens, try not to see it as something against you,” she says. “See it as a chance to strengthen the relationship. And the same goes the other way around—don’t be afraid to speak up when something hurts you. Staying silent only creates distance.”
She closes with a reminder that healthy relationships aren’t built on perfection but on honesty. “Speaking from the heart is also a way of caring—and that, too, is love,” she tells her followers.
Viewers are praising the message
The video has racked up tens of thousands of views, more than 15,000 likes, and around eighty comments—many from users thanking Rubio for putting the idea into such clear, relatable terms.
Comments range from “I’m glad someone finally explained this well” to “You’re absolutely right,” “It’s so hard to understand this without getting upset,” and “Couldn’t agree more—thank you.”
The response makes one thing clear: a lot of people are craving more open, honest communication—and they’re relieved to hear that vulnerability can be a powerful form of love.
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